08.13.08
Deep thoughts on a Wednesday…
HI!
Hope everyone is having a wonderful week! I just updated “Rebecca’s Rumors” so make sure you check it out! Hot stuff! I’m trying something new – instead of putting the “RR’s Red Hot of the Day” I’m leaving stuff up from past days so people can catch up or go back and reread stuff. I think it’s working out better?! Your thoughts?
My weekend was good. Worked, hung out…but something that’s been stuck in my head was the wedding I went to. It’s really made me sit back and think about things.
The wedding was my friend Fatty’s dad’s wedding on Friday. His dad and new wife seem really happy and I hope it works out. The backstory is his parents were married 32 years and then divorced. His Mom remarried about 2 months after. It’s been about 3 years since it happened and it’s just so hard on him.
It’s funny because you think being older (he’s 32 now) it would make it easier, but he told me that he wanted everything his parents had and then to see it fall apart so easily after so long makes him think that nothing is meant to last. He doesn’t speak to his Mom anymore (loooong story) and he and his dad are super tight. He is really worried that his Dad will get hurt again. He’s only known the woman a few months, and she’s been married 3 times before. It’s not that he didn’t want him to get married or that he doesn’t like the lady – he just wanted him to wait a while. What’s the rush right? The woman really does seem great, but when they were exchanging vows (Fatty was the best man), I could see Fatty wiping away tears. It sucked for lack of a better phrase, but it is what it is ya know? He knows his dad is a grown man who makes his own decisions, he was “being a good son” and just standing by his side – at least that’s what I believe and kept telling him.
What a weird situation right? I can’t get it out of my head for some reason. I feel where he is coming from but I just have a different outlook I suppose. Maybe it’s wishy-washy and unrealistic – but all I know is ride or die…MAKE IT WORK!(very Tim Gunn I know) My parents have been married 47 years, my oldest sister Patty has been married 27 years, my other sister Sylvia almost 14. I’d like to think IF I ever get married it will be forever.
I’ve never been in a rush to get married, or felt pressure because “all my friends were doing it”. When and if the time is right it will happen. Fatty’s dad was engaged to another woman a year after his parents divorced. He just wanted to get married so bad it didn’t matter to who (the woman was HORRIBLE – so wrong). I don’t get that. Three months after that relationship ended, he met the woman he married…and then married her right away. I guess if you know, you just know but, I just don’t get it?!
I’ve seen girlfriends (and guy friends) rush in to ‘the next step’ because they felt they were getting old or their family was pressuring them. That’s a luxury I never had to deal with. My sisters were so much older than me that by the time I wasn’t a baby anymore, my sister was having them so there was never any pressure to shoot out kids or wrangle me up a guy to help my Dad do repair work. Done and done already thanks to both my sisters…and now Jess who is 27 and doing the marriage/family thing.
Genie and Kanya (my best friends) are getting married and their relationships are AWESOME! As couples they just have this energy about them – they have fun together, have great careers, beautiful homes, they travel, and their in-laws are so much fun! I am so happy for them. I WILL NOT settle down unless I can have that for myself ya know? Who says by a certain age you need to have 2.5 kids and a corner lot? I am extremely independent and I can’t imagine compromising that. The man would have to be borderline superhero or something. I can cook and sew and all that crap…but can you seem me married? I’m the best aunt ever…but can you see ME pregnant?! BARF! It’s just not me.
What is me is LIVING BY MYSELF! (Switching subjects) I am so all about having my house solo. Kelly and Sophie have been out since the last week in July. It’s odd because we lived together 5 years…but it rules. Remember a loooong time ago when Joe shot that cribs at my house? I want to do a new one, but they still have to paint and my new furnature isn’t being delivered until after the fact so that will be on hold.
Anyhow, I just realized what time it is and have to wrap this up! Katie (my neice) is going back to school on Monday so I think I’m going to go stalk her. I won’t get to see her until December! 
BUT, she is graduating so that will be awesome 
Plus, my friend CB007 gets back from Cali today so I want to hear how his job interview went.
Have a wonderful day and talk to you soon!
XOXO,
Reb
